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You can get the ‘Convert to Joy’ Technique!

July 22nd, 2008         |     Add your comment »

I’ve just published a Free Report: Flipping the Joy Switch - You can Change Your Mind, Your Results, and the Future Now! In it I introduce my new philosophy called the Biology of Influence and also a new technique I developed to help coach mental toughness in myself, my business colleagues and my …

What about people who don’t like your vision?

August 14th, 2007         |     Add your comment »

Good question.  There are a couple things here.  It depends on who it is.  Is your vision big enough?  Are you impacting others?  Are you trying to control someone else? Are you including them in your vision? Is the listening going both ways?

Again, it is not about the immediate situation…it is always a bigger question, the greater purpose.  For example, in the Fairhaven experience I’ve already talked about, there was a key thing that we had to do as a team, as a community.

1)  We had to stop trying to stop the other guy from having opinions, and instead listen to their issue and try to include it and include them in the process. 

When faced with resistance, ask, “If there was another answer, what answer is there that includes us all?” Open your heart and your ears to what the underlying issue is in their resistance, in their argument, and see if you can find a new solution no one has ever thought of before?

2)  We also had to recognize that some people had the power to make ultimate choices because they had the most invested, and we had to respect that.  

I do not mean passively kowtow to them, but to actually respect that they cared enough to put massive money, time and thought into creating